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Valentine’s Day comes once a year, and we are assailed with the commercial aspect of the holiday. Television commercials and store ads all focus on what to buy to put a smile on the face of the lady in your life. I couldn’t help but wonder at the one claiming that the perfect gift would be a teddy bear at the cost of $100.00. Really? If someone who loved me gave me a teddy bear that big and that pricey, I would wonder at his mental capabilities. It also led me to realize that there are no suggestions as to what to do or give to the man in  your life. Truly it should be less about gifting and more about loving.

Love involves two people and it should be a mutual give/take relationship. Trying to buy or influence love by presenting an ideal gift is not what defines love. It’s about a relationship with the Lord and including that special someone in your Christian walk. Two lives that focus on Christ and His love are the footing on which a firm marriage needs to be built.

Love is an ongoing, every day experience. It’s about loving during the sunny, pleasant weather as well as during the cold dreary days of winter. It’s about taking up the chores the other doesn’t like. I’m always ready to call upon Jim to come and get the occasional bug that appears in the house. He never minds and drops everything to accommodate me. If I look at him and give a big smile, he knows I’d really love to have a cup of coffee. I try and watch his diet to keep him healthy, but I still buy low calorie sweets that appeal to him. We both love chocolate and indulge at reasonable intervals. As our relationship has grown so has our love for the Lord. We spend time in scripture daily and pray together a minimum of three times a day. Our prayer life has blossomed most of all over the sixteen years we’ve shared so far. We praise our Lord and Savior daily. He is the reason our marriage has endured.

Although Jim is plagued by chronic pain, we begin each day with smiles and a kiss. What could be better? We pray for others and try to share our blessings with “the least of these.” Life is too short to worry whether the toilet seat is up or down, which way to load the roll of toilet paper or who ate the last strawberry. Share prayer, smiles, hugs, kisses and reach out to others. Focus on the Lord and everything else will fall into place.  Yes, “love is patient, love is kind…It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” (1 Corinthians 13:4-5) Love each other as the Lord loves each of us!